I’ve seen some replies to the tweet that Jared Padalecki had tweeted earlier following the news of Philip Seymour Hoffman’s death due to a drug (heroin) overdose.
Jared’s tweet has since been deleted but was originally:
" "Sad" isn’t the word I’d use to describe a 46 year old man throwing his…
As somebody who has dealt with alcohol and self-harming addictions, personally and with others, i find myself agreeing with Jared here. Taking the drugs is a conscious choice one makes in order to NOT handle a situation- same as taking the next shot, the next pill, the next cut, whatever the addiction may be- like a responsible adult. Any time a person chooses to shirk responsibility in order to do something selfish, as a society we’re quick to judge and lay blame. What PSH did was selfish. He chose to turn his back on his family, his friends, and those responsible for assisting in his sobriety.
Sobriety was something i had to achieve through my own devices, in government social programs, and i can guarantee that what he had access to was so much more than the one size fits all blanket social programs come as. And even with the overcrowding, there was a sponsor, available to me when it got bad. And even still, nearly eight years in (seven years, ten months, thirteen days, to be exact) my sponsor is still there as a support option.
PSH had a very successful career, a beautiful family and every chance to support him through the relapse. Shooting up was a stupid, senseless choice that he made. And just like everything else, there are consequences. Unfortunately, he no longer has to deal with them. His family is the one who has to deal with it.
What needs to happen is a change in romanticizing drug culture. Its hard to find a way to combat drug addiction when popular media shows only the exciting side. When music makes it a way of life. Telling young people to ignore the idea of the mystery and power of drugs when they see people everyday getting high and evading cops and getting women and money? Its not going to work. Not without harsh realistic proof that drugs ruin lives.
And that starts with calling a spade a spade. Just because he was famous does not excuse him or give society a reason to romanticize a life as an addict. If anything, it does more harm than good. Because by calling it a tragedy and memorializing him for the healthy actor he portrayed makes his fight with addiction trivialized. Because that’s what needs to be discussed.
So be sad that Jared called the stupidity of his behavior out, but be pissed about the people who would rather ignore an all to important facet of the man he was behind the actor façade. And then be pissed about a culture that idolizes actors and ignores painful truths in order to romanticize the addict not on the corner.